Hey, this is what I've got to say today.
So my blog today is taking a turn I didn't expect.  I was going to write about the windy road my son had to take to find peace in his life.  Turns out I'm going to write about my daughter who turns 19 today.
I was at my boyfriend's house until about 9:00 last night, then came home to find both my girls chatting in the living room.  My oldest, Miranda, looked upset. She is a full-blown drama queen so  that's not unusual.  I asked what's wrong.  After the usual "oh, nothing," "It's not worth talking about," I got out of her that she isn't sure if she wants to be a nurse anymore.  She is a sophomore at CSU Stanislaus, and picked that college for its selection process for the nursing program.  To me this was not earth-shattering news.  I tried to explain that it wasn't unusual for college sophomores to change their majors.  Quite common actually.
Since Miranda graduated from high school with 16 college credits and is going to college on pretty close to a free ride, her father and I have few complaints.  She lives at my house rent free, no bills to speak of other than car insurance and any crazy groceries or sundries out of the norm.
So here is my baby girl, freaking out because she doesn't know what her major is in college anymore. My response may have seemed bitchy, but it was honest.  I told her to get over herself and calm down, she was a normal college sophomore.
Miranda has always excelled at everything she has done.  Always had things come very easily to her. She applied to something like six colleges and got in to five.  So to now feel like she is unsure of where her life is heading makes her very uncomfortable.  I think it's a good thing.  She needs to learn that she can go off course and still be okay.
Then Miranda announces she wants to take summer classes.  I asked her why.  She is 19 years old, lives at home rent free, eats my food, works part time, and will enjoy these privileges until she graduates from college.  She went in as a second semester freshman, so she is already ahead of the game.  She works very hard.  It took a while but I finally got her to agree she would take the summer off.
I know it sounds off that I would talk my kid out of taking summer classes so she could finish college sooner, but there has to be a balance.  You are only young once, and responsibility and life are thrown in your face so quickly.  So what if I want Miranda to take time to smell the roses.  She is 19 years old.  She works part time.  She is a very responsible, loving, beautiful daughter, granddaughter, great-granddaughter and sister.  I have raised her to be a good kid.  Now I have to teach her to be a good adult.  And part of that is learning balance.  Wanting to overachieve is a great thing, but not at the expense of losing yourself.
So that's what I have to say today.  Hope you are having a great one!!!